By Dave and Lucy Snyder
The Story: Have you ever had the “vacation discussion”? We grew up in such different families. Lucy: Being an Army daughter I experienced the annual visit to relatives and thought that’s what Dad’s leave was for. I was ready to do something fun that didn’t include visiting relatives. Dave: I came from a small town in PA and a family where my Dad was very work focused. I was ready to reconnect to my family and friends back in my home town. It wasn’t until we were well into our military life and marriage that we were able to communicate in a normal tone of voice about this issue.
We credit our WWME Weekend and the tools we learned about unmet expectations and active listening for our eventual ability to resolve the vacation issue. After much listening with our heart, we now make decisions about vacations based on what is best for US and our family, rather than on what we ”should” do. By the way, we STILL have to use our tools after retirement from the Army to plan vacations, although now WE are the family waiting for the visits! Imagine that!
The Strategies: We have listed three strategies for dealing with vacation decisions. We know that you may have found other ways—we would love to hear your ideas.
Dear Lord, Help us to reach out to one another each day with a listening heart.
Stories, Strategies and Scripture
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This blog is written by military couples to share the wisdom, insights, experiences and faith that they have gained in their years of Catholic marriage. Comments welcome! Share your ideas and experiences with other military couples and help us support one another in the vocation of marriage!